handbags at ten paces

The phrase "handbags at ten paces" is an idiom that figuratively describes a dispute, argument, or confrontation between two individuals, typically women, that is perceived as being non-threatening or non-violent. It implies a sense of formality and decorum while indicating that the conflict is more about words, attitude, or competition rather than physical violence. The phrase originates from the practice of dueling, where participants would stand ten paces apart before engaging in a swordfight. However, in the modern context, it suggests a less serious or more humorous quarrel resembling a confrontation over fashionable handbags rather than genuine combat.